"Power in all relationships always lies with whoever cares less"
Now that totally struck a cord. I don't know why i always felt and I'd like to still believe that I've cared a lot and tried very hard to make things work. And a broken heart after a failed attempt always wanted to say something on the lines of all-men-are-dogs, never-love-again, never-remember-dates-in-a-relationship-and-make-the-guy-feel-unimportant et cetera et cetera.... but this line just amassed all those vague wanna-be-statements-of-wisdom and gave a clear picture. Its true! Didn't it always seem like the other one cared so much less from the side of the lake you were standing??!!
For a brief amount of time, we did get carried away by the oh-so-typical-chick-flick-plot! We caught the bait! So the line actually impacted us very much.
However, at the ending, in the part where everything's getting fixed after a mess we thought we'd never recover from, Bam! he proposes a toast- he says
"but power isn't happiness! And May be, Happiness comes from caring more about people rather than less"
And I thought that was beautiful, that was genius! I have to confess, (may be I'm naive but) i never thought of any of it in that way.
Its is true that true happiness lies in the joy of giving, being thoughtful about small things and leaving those little notes on the fridge, fixing those little hiccups of day whatever they are, making that one phone call in a busy day to tell that you do remember.
Its beautiful and makes me happy. And I am gonna keep trying for whoever it is, to care more, because at the end of the day, when you ask yourself Is Power Happiness? you get the answer....
As for why Im reading your little post, Id rather not comment :p
ReplyDeleteBut to me, sadly, quote number 1 made more sense. Power in a relationship, lies with the one who cares less. And isnt it true, how many times have I seen people just hanging onto relationships, with the hope that someday the other person would care just as much as they did. The day you get two people who care equally as much( or less) for each other, voila you have the perfect relationship. As for the second quote from this now-on-my-list movie, doesnt caring more about the wrong person just lead to more heartbreak? Dont The little things look nice only when things overall are going smoothly?
thats a perspective varun... and its very true. As for the fisrt part of whatever you said, i'll say, yes people do hang on to relationsips waiting for the other person to care more, so in a way, when youre blinded by anger and frustration that they dont care as much, you just begin to believe that they're more powerful. Atleast i do, n i hate them for that
ReplyDeleteAnd second part, yes, true caring more for the wrong person does leave you with a heart break but atleast i shouldn't 'not care' fearing the heartbreak, otherwise it would be unfair on my part.
Didnt quite get you, why would it be unfair on your part??? *scratches head*
ReplyDeletebecause what if that person is just being normal, and you have all this anger and vengeance from the past break ups and you show it on this poor chap, by not remembering dates and making him wait unnecessarily, it would be unfair.. he would be scratching his head and thinking why i'm so uptight and defensive. Ya.. i got the point about him not being the right guy, so that guy is not in the picture okay. i'm talking about the next genuine relationship after the failed one...
ReplyDeleteGot :) Next post ki looking forwardu...see mine too!!!
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